Mindfulness originated in Eastern meditation traditions such as Buddhism but is now an established secular discipline. A growing body of research supports wider use of the approach to address transient stress and deeper mental health problems, including recommendations from the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence that it be offered on the NHS to patients suffering from depression.

It seemed that up to now the effect of the course is positive and teenagers who had the course thought it was helpful to get sleep and good to cut down the nervous at school cricket matches.

Most of the readers advocate it. Why should we deny it if it is useful for our development? However, there is always negative voice when new things emerge into our life and somebody said that it was eyewash. Personally speaking, I think that this kind of new course would be uptake and become a new way to teach us when we are teenagers to help ourselves from those mental problems. After all, more and more tragedy results from the mindset problems in today’s life. When we say that mindset decides everything of a person, no body teaches a course in class how to tackle this problem.

Hope that mindfulness course could finally  benefit most of us.

During my time as a teenager and after I got to campus, I met a part of those cases. My cousin, 4 years old than me, was indulged in playing video games without going to school when he was in high school. You can find him only either in web café or in bed of his room. My mom and his parents all had searched him all over the cafes of the town. Each time after caught back, what he faced with was a hard hit from his parents and a period of education besides his ears. However, anther cycle of the scene went on several days later. At that time, maybe 10 years ago, my aunt’s family hated those bosses of the web café severely. They thought that it was those cafes brought the damages to a lot of families like them.

From most of the teenagers’ addiction cases, the parents care less about the children’s private life. They communicate so less and parents cannot really touch the heart of their kids. They don’t really know what the hell the teenagers think. Most of the time, parents have the busiest period in their life when their family needs more home expenditure. They bury their head in their career and leave less and less time about how to getting through their children. I think maybe that leads to the impact coming from the internet for the relationship between parents and teenagers. For those bad parents- children relationship family, it is time to make some time to fix it up. Internet is not our enemy. It is a good tool if we use it good and maybe a terminator if we don’t learn a lesson from ourselves.

As soon as I heard their crying, I know their father’s tyranny started. It was a tantalizing and hard time for me. I could not help. There always came a great impulse from the bottom of my heart that if I were not a kid, if I had power, I would had broken into his house, beat that tyrant and saved my friends out of the cage. However, it was just my imagination and things went as it was with my tooth bit soundly.

What was going on there in my neighbor’s? The father pricked his two children with self made needles as his special family punishment if the children did something made him angry. The feeble mother was too weak to stop this. I saw the needles by myself and the amount was two, pricked on the wall if not on the body of my friends. The above story was true and was always an example for other parents to spook their children in the community.

I think most of us of my age have experienced being beat by our parents. I remembered to be beat severely in a cold winter day with snowflakes covered the ground. The reason was I went out to play on the ice surface of the huge lake with pals secretly. The surface was not as safe as I thought and I went home with wet shoes and pants. My brother and my cousins all had parents’ punches when they were treasonous teenagers. And now, they all grow up and are my mom’s and my aunt’s comfort and good sons. We hear thousands of times that they beat us for us good. 

To beat or not, in the modern society, education expert’s theory tell us the way to teach our children in a kind method. Yeah, I agree with that .If you can do it with a peaceful way, it is the best of all. But sometimes we may lost our temper and beat our children impulsively, then a kind of thinking is needed afterwards and repair the relationship between you and children as soon as possible.

Maybe we think it is nothing new to see a young teenager smoking at the street any longer. We are used to it. More and more teenagers become the victims of nicotine and cancer causing toxins at a young age. The report of increased death of lung cancer cannot make a difference for them as well.

As the no smokers, we cannot avoid the effect of second hand smoke in the public but we can make the house much healthier, for the safety of our kids and ourselves as well.

Today I read news from the newspaper that in 2008, the figure of people not be harmed by smoke and second hand smoke is only 5.4% globally. Before you find any signal of your kids smoking, tell them and let them know deeply about the harm of smoking. Help you kids set up the right view of smoking at a young age. Smoking is not just cool as it seems on the face. On the other hand, make sure that your house should never be a place that allows smoking for everyone.

From my point of view, water, especially plain water, is the most important medium for the chemical reaction in the cell. It enhances the good circulation of blood, transportation of waste and urination. However, most of the soft drinks in the market today are added by industry additives. Our kids’ attention is all drew on those delicious and good looking drinks with beautiful wrappers around and cool movie star printed on the bottle. The next step is trying to let your kids have more plain water. From now on, tell kids as much as you can that if you want to be pretty, drink water. If you want to be healthy, drink water. If you want to be slim, still drink water. Parents should be kids’ example at the same time.

There is a reason for everything. First, my mom is a good cooker and when I was a kid, she showed me her passion on cooking and always gave us surprises. Good sense of taste and my mom’s love on cooking affect me in my life. It is an attitude to life.

When kids become grownups, they have to live on themselves and if kids have a good ability of cooking, life should be much more tasteful.

We have some tips to share. Let your kids love cooking. This is one of those abilities that make life colorful.

Among all those tips, in my opinion, mum’s tasteful dishes help a lot than others.

1. Let you kids feel the fun of cooking and help them cook when they want to have a try. Don’t be afraid of getting things messed up or scold them if kids waste some of the raw material.
2. I think every kid especially girls have experienced the period of pretending cooking days. I did. If they like pretending cooking, buy some plastic bowls and dishes so that less damage will be occurred. As parents, do not stop them doing this is ok.
3. Seize the chance of baking cookies with your kids. Let kids be your assistant in the kitchen. It is also good to make a happy atmosphere when the whole families join in cooking.
4. If you have teenagers, let them play their favorite music while they wash the lettuce and set the table.
5. When spending time preparing food with your children, include lessons about healthy eating choices. Keep the conversation positive and avoid listing foods they can’t have.
6. Another important thing is sharing the job of grocery shopping with your kids. Always work from a grocery list and let your children help you retrieve items and cross them off the list.
7. It is perfect if the whole families enjoy the meal which has each member of the family participated in.

 1. Respect kids will and thought, try to give them a chance to make choice.

2. Before your decision, why not listen to teenagers what they think about it.

3. Be patient to your kids’ talking if even you are busy at work.

4. Try to communicate with them initiatively about what’s their consideration.

I think that many teenagers; especially those teenagers out of control have experienced this kind of things. They lost parents’ trust to some extend. Without trust, relations between parents and children are always in a vicious circle. Children don’t open their heart to parents and parents feel disappointed day by day. Parents are too busy and are always caught up in too many annoyed things. They sometimes have no patience to listen to our explanations. They judge it on the basis of the previous behaviour teenagers have done.

Actually, trust is the force that makes us move forwards. It means concerning and encouragement. It is always simulative. It sets up equality and respect between parents and children. Always keep in mind that parents should be the first and most reliable friends children can count on.

When I was young, in early 1980s, no TV sets, no videos, no computers and not too much connection with the outside world. I slept not later than 9 o’clock in the night and got up until 7 o’clock the next morning. Right now things are changed. Children are exposed to a colorful world, full of social media and Internet webs. Sleeping time has been greatly cut and sleeping shortage of children and teenagers has led to a lot of problems like inattentive, bad memory and learning abilities and other chronic problems that are misjudged and misdiagnosed. The children sleep less, which makes parents take for granted that their children just need so much of sleep. Experts say that Sleep deficiency impacts strongly on the prefrontal cortex of the brain. This is the area engaged in what you might call higher-order thinking, involving creative and conceptual processes, as well as short-term memory. It is not only the duration of sleep about also the time and type that matters. Teenagers, like babies and toddlers, need a lot of “slow-wave” sleep, and tend to need more morning sleep for optimal functioning.

The following are some tips excerped from the book ‘teach you child to sleep’ written by Mandy Gurney and Tracey Marshall.

1 Have a set sleep time Set a regular sleep-wake schedule with no more than one hour deviation from day to day, including weekends.

2 Check out the bedroom Keep the room below 18C. Too much heat disturbs sleep. Constant noise can have the same effect, as can too much light: try using blackout blinds.

3 Relaxation time Get your child or teenager to do something relaxing in the half hour before bed — reading or listening to an audio book.

4 Remove distractions Make bedtime mean sleep time. This may mean removing toys, TV and computer from the bedroom. No eating, drinking or talking.

5 Enforce boundaries When you say two stories, mean two stories. Lack of limits can lead to long bedtime battles.

6 Focus the routine Aim to do the same things each night, about 30 minutes before bed — for example: a quick bath; straight into the bedroom; dim lights; read stories; say goodnight and leave. Expect your child to be asleep 15 minutes later.

7 Prevent “worry time” If your child is awake after 30 minutes because of worries, he or she should go to another room and read or listen to a tape for a while. A warm milky drink may help.

8 Diet Avoid caffeine close to bedtime (tea, Coke). For a snack, try a banana, warm milk, an oat biscuit or wholegrain cereal.

9 Regular exercise Encourage exercise for 20-30 minutes three or four times a week (but not within three hours of bedtime).

10 Praise children if they keep to “the rules”.