I will be a bridesmaid the day after tomorrow. The bride is my roommate on campus and she is going to be married a man seven years older than her. They are now running a small company making auto break rotors in a city which is adjacent to the one where I live now. When the first time I knew their relationship, my response was the same with other classmates’. We all didn’t think it would last long and smooth. The man had a two year old son with his ex-wife and that meant my friend was going to be a step mother, the fact which was so different from what we imagined at school. My friend hasn’t had a marriage before and only one love affair before this man. Now she is pregnant and the wedding ceremony is fixed on this Saturday.

Maybe it is so normal in the west countries and nothing surprised even in the world to see a 20 year old girl married a man who is 69 and has hundreds of children. However, we still have kind of worry about the relationship between the child and step mother who is going to have her own child. This kind of relationship is always the hidden blast of family conflict and collides if we don’t cope with it well and properly.

Each part of this relationship feels exhausted.

For me, sending my wishes for her wedding is the only way I can do.