Posts Tagged ‘kids’

Discrimination on those teens

February 2nd, 2010

Several days no communication with all of you. The end of the year is drawing just very near. Every corner of the place seems filled with busy and anxious air. The situation of economy seems revert much better than anticipated and especially for the auto industry in China. My company is specialized in auto spare part called flex tube and the production can not meet the need of those auto companies. Therefore, more operators have to be recruited. I referred in one of my previous passage that most of these workers are just teens, who start to intern at the third semester of their college. Two teens out of ten finally pass the exam and interview. If their medical report is ok, they can start to work right away. However, yesterday I met a thing that gave that child the first punch on his career. He is a hepatitis B virus carrier and then was denied. Since I remembered things, my parent asked me to be away from those kids infected with HBV through mother to baby relations. At that time I had no idea what it was. Discrimination starts on these people since they were child and they are innocent. Feel sympathetic for them or lucky for ourselves? Even though this may has no side effect for my company’s sales, the outcome is without an exception. He was denied in the phone. He tried to accept the fact without exposing his sadness. Although we tried the best not to hurt him, we actually did, maybe the first hit for him. I knew several same cases. One of the teens was infected from his roommate during a depressed period. These children sometimes are vulnerable and always worry about the job they have now. It is difficult for them to find a job compared to those healthy ones. Discrimination is not only just limited on the jobs.

If we know some knowledge of the virus like AIDS or HBV, we should be easier when live around them. For those teens, we should place more cure rather than asking our child hurt them.

How many dinners do you have with kids?

January 21st, 2010

More than ten years ago I had nearly every dinner with my family. If there was something worthy of recalling, that was the harmonious atmosphere during the dinner time. We chat with each other and a lot of funny topics and subjects were discussed. When I left my hometown and went to campus, I shared each dinner with my roommates and returned back home on vacation. Having dinner together is the happiest time in my family.

While nowadays, the fast pace of working and life make the parents busy at career ignore the importance of having a dinner with children. American educational expert Marshall.P.Duke told us that happy communication at the dinner table or even a talk before sleeping is good for family harmonious relationship and promoting children’s thinking.

Make some time on investing in your dinner with children. In a successful dinner case, the first point is the democracy atmosphere among the family. Children can express what he likes. Parents play an important role in leading a good family dinner.

Here are some tips for reference.

  1. Don’t get your children into the habit of eating and watching TV at the same time.
  2. For the picky eating problems, more encouragement and less pressing.
  3. Each member of the family has to join in the dinner chat.
  4. For parents, focus on listening.
  5. Say some words to show that you are listening to your kids.
  6. Sincerely speak out something about your kids’ true feelings on what they express. Like: it is really difficult to lose a friend. I am really sorry to hear the bad situation that your classmates have. Is there something that we can help him out?

Make your baby concentrate

January 7th, 2010

This topic seems a little far from our daily life. However, each parent should be aware of educating your baby from an early age. If you have the awareness of antenatal training before delivery, I believe you should pour more energy to your kids after it. Several tips are to share with all of you. Some of them are from my own practice and some are from the books of toddler’s education.

  1. Create a pure and tidy environment. In my previous passages I referred that stimulation works during the development of baby’s nerve system. It is right here too. A noisy and disordered environment will lead to inattention. When my daughter was two years old, she had already got a lot of toys and dolls. I gave her one or two toys each time and the rest pile was removed to the other room. I can felt her concentration on them.
  2. regular bed time

Set up regular bed time for your kids. Let your children know when to play and when to rest. Plan a regular period to read and for outside sport.

  1. Balanced nutrition

This point is essential in every stage of children development. If the family can offer good diet condition, I think no parents would say no.

  1. Adequate sleep

Enough sleep, good mood, stable emotion and good concentration 

  1. Respect your child pace

Each child has different pace at development. Don’t push your child and make him do what you think he should achieve. Why not to slow down your speed and coordinate with him? More observation and be more patient. If you find obviously his interest, let him play longer time and it is a good time to let your child focus.

Teenagers’ net addiction

January 3rd, 2010

This is another tragedy happened among the teenagers who are addicted to web. The story was happened two weeks ago in the city where I live now. The boy, 17, addicted to website and cared nothing except for surfing on line, playing video games and chatting, killed his father with a steel hammer after the poor father was furious about his son’s behavior and cut off the electric power of the house during his playing net games. The boy’s mother heard the noise and went upstairs to help. However, she was attacked by her son with the hammer, her head cut down with a knife and eyes dug out. For me, it was difficult to figure out how he could do it to his biological parents.

During my time as a teenager and after I got to campus, I met a part of those cases. My cousin, 4 years old than me, was indulged in playing video games without going to school when he was in high school. You can find him only either in web café or in bed of his room. My mom and his parents all had searched him all over the cafes of the town. Each time after caught back, what he faced with was a hard hit from his parents and a period of education besides his ears. However, anther cycle of the scene went on several days later. At that time, maybe 10 years ago, my aunt’s family hated those bosses of the web café severely. They thought that it was those cafes brought the damages to a lot of families like them.

From most of the teenagers’ addiction cases, the parents care less about the children’s private life. They communicate so less and parents cannot really touch the heart of their kids. They don’t really know what the hell the teenagers think. Most of the time, parents have the busiest period in their life when their family needs more home expenditure. They bury their head in their career and leave less and less time about how to getting through their children. I think maybe that leads to the impact coming from the internet for the relationship between parents and teenagers. For those bad parents- children relationship family, it is time to make some time to fix it up. Internet is not our enemy. It is a good tool if we use it good and maybe a terminator if we don’t learn a lesson from ourselves.

To your child, it’s better to be serious.

December 29th, 2009

Yesterday, I got a cute beautiful box with a tiny handle which was used for carrying the jewellery. The box was from my colleague and I took it before throwing it into the dustbin. And I said that my daughter would be sure to like it. There was a pair of models painted on the pink surface and showing their love to each other.

After work, I gave the box to my husband and bought two packages of fruit flavour soft candy. I put them in the box and told to my husband that you gave the box to our child and said it was dad’s gift today. My husband was an architecture and almost two third of his time was outside all over the country. I wanted him to do something to show his concern to my daughter this time coming home without time to prepare a gift.

After getting back, my daughter got rid of the candy in just several minutes. When we were having dinner around the table, my daughter said to us,” We can use the box to hold the crushed chicken bones.” That was right. We had chicken this evening and a box holding the waste temporally after the meal was not bad. But I was a little unhappy to hear that. I asked,” Hey, it is your dad’s gift for you. How could you take it as a dustbin? What a beautiful box it is?” She put down her bowl and came towards to me. “It’s not daddy’s gift. He cheats on me. ” I was a little surprised. “Why do you say that?”

My daughter replied,” It is so obvious that the box and the candy don’t match so well. They are not the same package.” I can saw the face changing of my husband and what should he feel this moment.

Although my daughter is four years old, she knows a lot and has already formed her way of think. She starts to use her head and always question my answers.

For parents like me, we should treat our kids more serious. Don’t take for granted that our kid is always those who we think to be. Tricks may work out one time or twice, but be careful of the third time.

Try to keep your words to kids

December 17th, 2009

When I was six and my younger brother was three, my mum started to go to work. Not like most women nowadays, my mum went to work just for obtain more income to make the whole family’s life better. Women now have more requirements on jobs and need the career and personal development to fulfil dreams. As a result, I took the responsibility of taking care of my brother. As for rewards, mum bought us sweet round candy, which was packed in a small plastic bag that time. This was her words to us and she never let us down. So it was the happiest time when we heard the footstep of mom’s coming home. The candy was thirty cents that time, but we take it seriously then. Mum always keep her promise to her kids and she was also a good example to her children to learn the importance of keeping words to others. She never promised toys or gadget easily. However, if she answered with ok, she always tried to keep her words to us and didn’t care the cost she would pay for.

Mom’s this kind of character affect both my brother and I in the later days of daily life. Keeping words help us to establish the solid and reliable relationship between friends and the most important thing is the respect from people around us. Friends rely on us and believe in us.

If you give your children words about something, try to keep it or don’t response so easily. Teach your children to keep promise and give the explanation of the reason when they cannot do it. Like I said, parents are always the example of their children.

Make your home non smoking environment

December 11th, 2009

I dislike smoking very much. I cannot breathe in the house full of smoke. My father smoke a lot now and it is really hard for him to get rid of it after more than a decade smoking habit. My brother started to smoke at high school and seems to get heavier in the university. They are just addicted to it. Most of the workers here in the factory are not older than 20 years old. Of course, my working place is not a black workshop, hiring minors to save the cost. Most of the young teenagers here have not graduated from technical college yet. Normally they start intern in the factory at the start of the third semester. Most of them are 18, 19 years old. However, three second of the pupils smoke and a great part of them has two to three years’ smoking age.

Maybe we think it is nothing new to see a young teenager smoking at the street any longer. We are used to it. More and more teenagers become the victims of nicotine and cancer causing toxins at a young age. The report of increased death of lung cancer cannot make a difference for them as well.

As the no smokers, we cannot avoid the effect of second hand smoke in the public but we can make the house much healthier, for the safety of our kids and ourselves as well.

Today I read news from the newspaper that in 2008, the figure of people not be harmed by smoke and second hand smoke is only 5.4% globally. Before you find any signal of your kids smoking, tell them and let them know deeply about the harm of smoking. Help you kids set up the right view of smoking at a young age. Smoking is not just cool as it seems on the face. On the other hand, make sure that your house should never be a place that allows smoking for everyone.

If you want to be healthy, drink water.

December 10th, 2009

When I was a teenager, I was mad about those sweet and sour soft drinks and sweet ice cream. And my brother always has sweet drinks instead of plain water all day long. These colorful drinks and milky aroma pull your nerve tightly and it is really hard to deny it, especially for kids and teenagers. Kids don’t like plain water, which is the most useful ingredient of our body and most easily absorbed substance by our body. The importance of water may be not thoroughly realized by us. A lot of illness is resulted from inadequate water we have. Somebody will say that he feel nothing uncomfortable of his body even though a lot of soft drinks poured into the stomach. How to explain it?

From my point of view, water, especially plain water, is the most important medium for the chemical reaction in the cell. It enhances the good circulation of blood, transportation of waste and urination. However, most of the soft drinks in the market today are added by industry additives. Our kids’ attention is all drew on those delicious and good looking drinks with beautiful wrappers around and cool movie star printed on the bottle. The next step is trying to let your kids have more plain water. From now on, tell kids as much as you can that if you want to be pretty, drink water. If you want to be healthy, drink water. If you want to be slim, still drink water. Parents should be kids’ example at the same time.

Mathematics, your kid’s headache?

December 9th, 2009

Several weeks ago, my colleague and I went to the best international school in our city and paid for the annual tuition of the Korean managers’ kids, which is thirty times higher than normal local schools. When she was in the accounting office, I went out for a strolling and want to see what the hell the best bilingual education school is extinct from others.

A great part of the kids are from Japan and Korea. Maybe one or two kids on average in a class are from European or state countries. When I was looking around, I came across grade 1 class kids coming out for playing snow ball. The teacher was a lady, maybe 30 years old, standing beside them. Two minutes later, a black girl, called Coco, coming out from the building with a paper sheet in her hand and said” teacher, I finished the sheet”. “Coco, you are fast enough to finish the test sheet.” “12 minus 5 equals 10, 13 plus 1 equals 10, 18 minus 3 equals 10 and every outcome is 10” Then the lady asked Coco go back to classroom and recalculate it until getting the correct number. I could still remember the feeling on Coco’s face, how she wanted to join in the snowball games with others. She turned around several times when she went back into the building. The above scene may happen in a lot of families and I want to point out that I have no skin color discrimination in this story. I just met it. Wherever, even the best of the best school, math cases happen.

Math, maybe a headache for both parents and kids, is logical and boring. It doesn’t like illustrating and drawing. Sometimes it seems no fun at all. I planned to share some tips. However, every parent’s solution is different. It is important to find a special way for your own kids and let them like math. Don’t pressurize your kids using your way to learn math and try not to shout at them. It will only make things worse. Make math funny with the help of books and help from teacher. You will obtain what you expect from your kids under your patience and persistence. Another suggestion is that the earlier you set up the interest of math for your kids, the better he will behave in high school and later studying.

What is your gift this Christmas?

December 6th, 2009

When I was a kid, the New Year’s Day is the happiest time. Not only because a lot of delicious food that unavailable normal days can be ate but also New Year’s Day means we can obtain gifts, new clothes or lucky money for the new year.

Christmas day is one of the most important festivals in west countries and nowadays is associated with gifts, toys, shoes, play stations and etc. How many kids know the meaning of Christmas and how does it come from? When parents are busy at choosing a good turkey and wrapping gifts for kids, maybe it is a good time to teach your kids a lesson about Christmas and the meaning of it. Tell a story of Christmas to your kids and let them know more about Christmas rather than the Santa’s image and Christmas tree invented by Coca Cola Company.

You can buy a book or download a passage of christmas day from the internet and it could be extra gift for your kids.