Posts Tagged ‘children’

« Older Entries

The relation of kids and step mother

January 28th, 2010

I will be a bridesmaid the day after tomorrow. The bride is my roommate on campus and she is going to be married a man seven years older than her. They are now running a small company making auto break rotors in a city which is adjacent to the one where I live now. When the first time I knew their relationship, my response was the same with other classmates’. We all didn’t think it would last long and smooth. The man had a two year old son with his ex-wife and that meant my friend was going to be a step mother, the fact which was so different from what we imagined at school. My friend hasn’t had a marriage before and only one love affair before this man. Now she is pregnant and the wedding ceremony is fixed on this Saturday.

Maybe it is so normal in the west countries and nothing surprised even in the world to see a 20 year old girl married a man who is 69 and has hundreds of children. However, we still have kind of worry about the relationship between the child and step mother who is going to have her own child. This kind of relationship is always the hidden blast of family conflict and collides if we don’t cope with it well and properly.

Each part of this relationship feels exhausted.

For me, sending my wishes for her wedding is the only way I can do.

2 comments »

Posted in General Education Topics

Tags:

Several things to know before picking your children’s school

January 26th, 2010

Well, when it was twenties years ago, there was not much difficulty for my parents to pick my school from the learning age. We lived in the uptown and there was only one school sponsored by local enterprise, three hundred meters far to my home. I had five years happy time there. I need no school bus and always the guy keeping the key of the classroom. When my home moved to the downtown, things changed. My parents tried their best to find me the best high school and hoped me to get the best education. I gradually understand their thought and nowadays getting their children the greatest education is the top priority as long as parents can offer.

Several tips are to be shared with parents to choose a school for children.

  1. Using handy online tool to find the school near you.
  2. Get the government agency report of schools you’re considering
  3. Get the list of top schools, from primary to secondary, pre-prep and independent
  4. Think about the tuition that you can stand and private school is not your first choice.

No comments »

Posted in General Education Topics

Tags:

How many dinners do you have with kids?

January 21st, 2010

More than ten years ago I had nearly every dinner with my family. If there was something worthy of recalling, that was the harmonious atmosphere during the dinner time. We chat with each other and a lot of funny topics and subjects were discussed. When I left my hometown and went to campus, I shared each dinner with my roommates and returned back home on vacation. Having dinner together is the happiest time in my family.

While nowadays, the fast pace of working and life make the parents busy at career ignore the importance of having a dinner with children. American educational expert Marshall.P.Duke told us that happy communication at the dinner table or even a talk before sleeping is good for family harmonious relationship and promoting children’s thinking.

Make some time on investing in your dinner with children. In a successful dinner case, the first point is the democracy atmosphere among the family. Children can express what he likes. Parents play an important role in leading a good family dinner.

Here are some tips for reference.

  1. Don’t get your children into the habit of eating and watching TV at the same time.
  2. For the picky eating problems, more encouragement and less pressing.
  3. Each member of the family has to join in the dinner chat.
  4. For parents, focus on listening.
  5. Say some words to show that you are listening to your kids.
  6. Sincerely speak out something about your kids’ true feelings on what they express. Like: it is really difficult to lose a friend. I am really sorry to hear the bad situation that your classmates have. Is there something that we can help him out?

No comments »

Posted in General Education Topics, Relationship between Parents and Children

Tags:

Have you ever thought about the children cosmetic?

January 20th, 2010

When I was a kid, I liked to be beautiful and always wore my mom’s cosmetic secretly. But nowadays, I have no much passion and interest in those fancy cosmetics except for some necessary facial everyday. The reason, I don’t know. When I was using those low priced makeup from the small store, I cared nothing about whether those powder or color hurt my skin or lip. I was crazy about the splendid color world when I was a teenager. I believe that most of parents today still use the adult cosmetic on their children’s face or body, especially the color make up. The fact is right now the specially made cosmetic for children has not yet been developed well.

When most of the sales seriously tell us that their products are totally natural and extracted from the fruit and vegetables, always keep in mind that these are just ads for promotion. When the whole earth environment is polluted, do you still expect that there are so called things totally natural? The point is we have to choose that good quality product comparatively and less stimulation for ourselves and our children.

For the color make up, my suggestion is if needed, once or twice is not a big deal.

No comments »

Posted in Physical and mental health

Tags:

Have you ever heard of children stroke?

January 19th, 2010

Today I read news about children stroke, which was happened on a 7 year-old healthy children. It just happened without any signs and so unexpected. Most of stroke cases we have heard were on adults, most of which are above forties or fifties. Slurred speech, droopy eyes, stiffness, inability to walk or even on his own, these symptoms can be described when an adult is taken to an emergency room because of stroke. Can you have any ideas when this is happened to 7 year old children? At least, I have never met this scene around of me. Because of children strokes happening much less than to adult, so the data was extremely limited. I think that researches on children stroke have a long way to go. The rate of children strokes has been growing in recent years, partly as a result of increased awareness and better reporting. It is estimated from the experts at children’s hospital of Philadelphia that the rate in children under 18 is as high as 12 per 100,000 or about 9000 cases a year. In newborns, the data is 25 per 100,000- a rate approaching that of elderly adults.

What I have read make me remind of my three times’ seizure when I was between 9-12 years old. I was always sick in my childhood. Three times of convulsion made my parents really mad at that time. I had no awareness about my sickness; eyes rolled up and just lay on the bed with my mom’s calling me. Maybe it was not much related to stroke and less dangerous than it. But you cannot imagine the anxiety and seriousness at that time when it happened in the dark night and the clinic was far away.

Today’s medical condition is much more advanced than 20 years ago. If some cases unexpected happened on our kids, try to send children to the hospital as fast as possible. Maybe it is the only helpful way to lessen the damage to our children.

No comments »

Posted in Physical and mental health

Tags:

Notice your child’s self-dignity

January 16th, 2010

We will not doubt that each child has self-dignity. Maybe he has it when 4 years old, maybe 2 years old or ever earlier. We should never think that this kind of thing coming later after going to kindergarten.

My daughter start kindergarten the early of this year and refuse to go to it from time to time. Sometimes, it is because her sickness and sometimes for bad weather and sometimes there was no reason at all. The tuition was paid monthly and therefore she could be absent of school for a month. Her situation brought some difficulty for the head teacher when there was an activity of the school kids for the festival or anniversary. In December, the kindergarten started to prepare for the New Year’s coming and the whole school had a party. Each class should prepare one program. My daughter’s class had a dancing program and the teacher didn’t consider my daughter’s participation because of her absence those days. Later on, my daughter insisted not to go to kindergarten for a whole week until her teacher asking for. I asked for the reason and her reply was she thought the teacher didn’t like her so that teacher didn’t give her the chance for the party. “I know how to do all of the moves, why the teacher doesn’t inform me, she must does not like me.”I realized that her self dignity was hurt. The next day I communicated with the teacher and told her the whole speech. I weaved a reason and proved to my daughter that her teacher still liked her as previously and the thing finally ended and past.

Each children start to own self dignity at a very young age. They need to be respected and concerned. Sometimes the parents hurt the tender heart without any notice. If you have done it unconsciously, modify it as early as possible.

No comments »

Posted in General Education Topics

Tags:

Fingernails can tell us

January 15th, 2010

You are what you eat. It is always right. Sometimes body signals can tell us what we are short of in our body. For example, our fingernail has this function. When I was a teenager, I was emerged into playing with my pals and care nothing about my health. As long as I didn’t get sick, I had no awareness of caring my body. However, I knew one thing, which fingernail was sometimes different from each other. More whiter, white fleck in one period and some was flat and easy fractured. The fact is that fingernail can tell us something about our children’s healthy situation. 

Nails can reflect some nutritional deficiencies, such as low levels of iron, biotin and protein.

Most nail problems aren’t associated with nutrition, but if children have an iron deficiency, their nails may disclose it. Pale, whitish nail beds are a common symptom of  animia. With more severe deficiencies, the fingernail may change shape — a condition called koilonychia where the nails are thin and concave with raised vertical ridges.

1 comment »

Posted in Physical and mental health

Tags:

Our memory of snowy day

January 11th, 2010

The snow this year should be a great threat for a lot of countries all over the world, including a great part of Europe and a lot of cities in China.

I have seen this scene two years ago in 2008 and if earlier in my childhood, it should be in nineteen nineties when I was a teenager. Everywhere was covered by more than ten centimeters snow and everywhere was frozen. It seemed that at that time we were not at all afraid of the coldness of the snow and you know the heating method was old and original compared to the various equipment sold in the supermarket today. My pals and I went to the frozen lake and all of us walked on the ice surface so excited. Unfortunately, some of us including me wet shoes and pants and got a hard beat when went back home. It was painful then but when I recalled those memories now, it was colorful in my childhood and it was worthy of the beating although it was very painful. All of the children were fond of snow ball fight. We would press someone into the snow and hit him with snowball severely.

This year a lot of schools got shut because of the heavy snow weather and a lot of big cities in my counties limit the use of electricity for factories’ production because of the shortage of coal.  

It was a gold period for those kids, playing and enjoying one scene of the nature. I suggest that let your children go out to play and to create some good memories of their own childhood which could be enjoyed a decade or two later in future.

The pictures of memory will never be obtained by money.

Make adequate measures to ensure your children’s warmth and if you are also free, go out with your kids to have a furious snow ball fight.

No comments »

Posted in General Education Topics

Tags:

Children book resources

January 4th, 2010

Today, I am going to share some internet children’s book resources with all of parents.

  1. jacketflap.com,a comprehensive website for children of elementary school. It has a great number of writers and teachers as its member. It is my favorite children’s book website. I can find nearly every aspect of children books and educational method here. I can communicate with other members and learn a great lot about children psychology and behavior. Of course, I can also share with others my mind about teaching children.
  2. Underdown.org, a archive for the children’s book resource and a guide for different requirements of the children’s books and education.

If you want a guide, it is really a good website and really informational.

1 comment »

Posted in Books and Resources

Tags:

Teenagers’ net addiction

January 3rd, 2010

This is another tragedy happened among the teenagers who are addicted to web. The story was happened two weeks ago in the city where I live now. The boy, 17, addicted to website and cared nothing except for surfing on line, playing video games and chatting, killed his father with a steel hammer after the poor father was furious about his son’s behavior and cut off the electric power of the house during his playing net games. The boy’s mother heard the noise and went upstairs to help. However, she was attacked by her son with the hammer, her head cut down with a knife and eyes dug out. For me, it was difficult to figure out how he could do it to his biological parents.

During my time as a teenager and after I got to campus, I met a part of those cases. My cousin, 4 years old than me, was indulged in playing video games without going to school when he was in high school. You can find him only either in web café or in bed of his room. My mom and his parents all had searched him all over the cafes of the town. Each time after caught back, what he faced with was a hard hit from his parents and a period of education besides his ears. However, anther cycle of the scene went on several days later. At that time, maybe 10 years ago, my aunt’s family hated those bosses of the web café severely. They thought that it was those cafes brought the damages to a lot of families like them.

From most of the teenagers’ addiction cases, the parents care less about the children’s private life. They communicate so less and parents cannot really touch the heart of their kids. They don’t really know what the hell the teenagers think. Most of the time, parents have the busiest period in their life when their family needs more home expenditure. They bury their head in their career and leave less and less time about how to getting through their children. I think maybe that leads to the impact coming from the internet for the relationship between parents and teenagers. For those bad parents- children relationship family, it is time to make some time to fix it up. Internet is not our enemy. It is a good tool if we use it good and maybe a terminator if we don’t learn a lesson from ourselves.

No comments »

Posted in General Education Topics, Relationship between Parents and Children

Tags: