If we know some knowledge of the virus like AIDS or HBV, we should be easier when live around them. For those teens, we should place more cure rather than asking our child hurt them.

My daughter start kindergarten the early of this year and refuse to go to it from time to time. Sometimes, it is because her sickness and sometimes for bad weather and sometimes there was no reason at all. The tuition was paid monthly and therefore she could be absent of school for a month. Her situation brought some difficulty for the head teacher when there was an activity of the school kids for the festival or anniversary. In December, the kindergarten started to prepare for the New Year’s coming and the whole school had a party. Each class should prepare one program. My daughter’s class had a dancing program and the teacher didn’t consider my daughter’s participation because of her absence those days. Later on, my daughter insisted not to go to kindergarten for a whole week until her teacher asking for. I asked for the reason and her reply was she thought the teacher didn’t like her so that teacher didn’t give her the chance for the party. “I know how to do all of the moves, why the teacher doesn’t inform me, she must does not like me.”I realized that her self dignity was hurt. The next day I communicated with the teacher and told her the whole speech. I weaved a reason and proved to my daughter that her teacher still liked her as previously and the thing finally ended and past.

Each children start to own self dignity at a very young age. They need to be respected and concerned. Sometimes the parents hurt the tender heart without any notice. If you have done it unconsciously, modify it as early as possible.

1. Create a pure and tidy environment. In my previous passages I referred that stimulation works during the development of baby’s nerve system. It is right here too. A noisy and disordered environment will lead to inattention. When my daughter was two years old, she had already got a lot of toys and dolls. I gave her one or two toys each time and the rest pile was removed to the other room. I can felt her concentration on them.
2. regular bed time

Set up regular bed time for your kids. Let your children know when to play and when to rest. Plan a regular period to read and for outside sport.

1. Balanced nutrition

This point is essential in every stage of children development. If the family can offer good diet condition, I think no parents would say no.

1. Adequate sleep

Enough sleep, good mood, stable emotion and good concentration 

1. Respect your child pace

Each child has different pace at development. Don’t push your child and make him do what you think he should achieve. Why not to slow down your speed and coordinate with him? More observation and be more patient. If you find obviously his interest, let him play longer time and it is a good time to let your child focus.

After work, I gave the box to my husband and bought two packages of fruit flavour soft candy. I put them in the box and told to my husband that you gave the box to our child and said it was dad’s gift today. My husband was an architecture and almost two third of his time was outside all over the country. I wanted him to do something to show his concern to my daughter this time coming home without time to prepare a gift.

After getting back, my daughter got rid of the candy in just several minutes. When we were having dinner around the table, my daughter said to us,” We can use the box to hold the crushed chicken bones.” That was right. We had chicken this evening and a box holding the waste temporally after the meal was not bad. But I was a little unhappy to hear that. I asked,” Hey, it is your dad’s gift for you. How could you take it as a dustbin? What a beautiful box it is?” She put down her bowl and came towards to me. “It’s not daddy’s gift. He cheats on me. ” I was a little surprised. “Why do you say that?”

My daughter replied,” It is so obvious that the box and the candy don’t match so well. They are not the same package.” I can saw the face changing of my husband and what should he feel this moment.

Although my daughter is four years old, she knows a lot and has already formed her way of think. She starts to use her head and always question my answers.

For parents like me, we should treat our kids more serious. Don’t take for granted that our kid is always those who we think to be. Tricks may work out one time or twice, but be careful of the third time.

Most of us can recall several things we did like damaging the bushes and young trees, slingshot ting the birds just for fun when we were children. These happy times past forever, because children today prefer high tech toys to those hand made stuff in the old times. Memories of childhood great environment gradually disappear. Help our children to be aware of protecting the nature and environment at young ages is the responsibility of education for the next generation. Here are several tips that can help.

1. Let you child know the importance of saving natural recourses. Save water, electricity, food and value the work other people offer. Parents should set yourself an example to your children in daily life.
2. Encourage and support your children to participate in school activity or community job that help environment and greening.
3. Learn how to recycle the life waste and make the full use of unused things. Ask your children to do it with you. It is innovative.
4. Get rid of your waste properly.
5. Try to walk or take the bus to go outside with your children when you are free in the vacation.

The above suggestion is limited and I believe that many more good ideas stem from our understanding of life and our wisdom can not only make life better but also keep it better.

This morning, I was told by my colleague that the saving box was broken last night just two minutes after the call. What the hell was going on there? Her daughter broke the new saving box with the old one when trying to remove the coins to the new one and one of the black corners was crashed off. She was very nervous and face was suddenly flushed because the new box gone bad just several minutes after she got it. What to do with it? What to say next? Beat your children? Scold your child? What if it was not a saving box, what if it was something you treasure and valuable? When I was a child, my mother published me at that time.

The moment my colleague started to outbreak, her daughter whispered:” Mom, you know, I broken the corner so that the separated part can be the smoke from the chimney. I won’t touch the house saving box any more.” What a forced interpretation!

Telling this story, I want every parent to stop a while to give a chance for your children’s explanation before your outbreak erupt and punishment follows. We are all grown ups and all can feel the sadness and self-blame when we do the wrong things. Our child can feel it too. Give your child a period time and let he recognize the lesson learned from the things he mess up. It is good for you both.