December 23rd, 2009 by editor
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Last night when I was playing games on the computer after dinner, my four-year-old daughter came inside the room and asked me whether she could play the breeders on the computer. I responded that she had to be in the queue and waited for sometime. She agreed. Actually I was just playing and totally absorbed in it. I didn’t want to quit. Half an hour later, she came back again and found that I didn’t show any signs of letting her playing. She was impatient and said,”Mom, you should let me play.” Why should I do that?” Because I helped you fight with Dad last night and for the sake of this, you should let me play. ” My husband and I were both tickled into great laugh and afterwards we told her that it was not the way that she should use and next time it was not allowed. However, she gave us a reason that no one knew how to answer that moment. She said,” I learn it from my teacher; she always says in the class that if you behave well in class, then you can get the red star and the chance of doing something you want.” You can have a wanted A on the condition that you behave well on B. I find that the teacher’s words are always effective and right to the kids. Children maybe not agree with you, retort you but always listen to the teacher’s.
The above is a funny story. But if you someday find that your children misunderstand and distort what the teacher really means, you have to find a way to restore it.
Share with me your kids’ funny story here.
December 22nd, 2009 by editor
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Christmas is coming soon and two days later busy people working all the year long can go back home and enjoy the most happy and easy time with children and people we love. I think that Christmas is a festival accepted by more and more people all over the world. More and more people who have Christmas festival work and live in the eastern countries and bring the atmosphere here.
Prepare your special gifts for your children and make delicious cookies and decorate your Christmas tree. Put down the annoying things and have your vacation. Let’s sing the song of silent night, obtaining the quiet and peace. God bless our children for the New Year!
Silent night Holy night
All is calm all is bright
’Round you virgin Mother and Child
Holy infant so tender and mild
Sleep in heavenly peace
Sleep in heavenly peace
Silent night, holy night,
Shepherds quake at the sight.
Glories stream from heaven afar,
Heav’nly hosts sing Alleluia;
Christ the Savior is born;
Christ the Savior is born.
Silent night, holy night,
Son of God, love’s pure light.
Radiant beams from Thy holy face,
With the dawn of redeeming grace,
Jesus, Lord, at Thy birth;
Jesus, Lord, at Thy birth.
December 21st, 2009 by editor
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I heard from the news that kidnapping shows rampant this year in Shenzhen, one of the first four cities which were opened to the world in 1979 in China and the rumors of the kidnapping cases in Shenzhen grows to 20 or so in the last several months. Maybe the panic is not so much severe compared with the situation of kidnapping in London but it really tense people’s nerve especially for those wealthy families, living in the luxury residential apartment around the school building. Two out of the three cases announced publicly by the security bureau was killed after the criminals got the money as required. People get wealthy with the development of the city are the goals of those people, making a desperate move. It is a nightmare for parents, losing their children. However, parents’ warning, education and some preparation for children in daily life decrease the chances of children being kidnapped to great extent.
Let’s share some resources from the web for the sake of our kids.
- The Polly Klaas Foundation offers a free child safety kit which includes do-it-yourself fingerprint and DNA documentation.
- There are a number of helpful child-safety publications, as well as a wealth of other information, on the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children website.
- The United States Department of Justice furnishes a searchable sex-offender database.
- You can purchase a stranger safety DVD on The Safe Side website. You will also find family and classroom discussion questions on this site. These questions are free to download. Although there is a cost involved with the DVD, it might be worthwhile to split the purchase with other parents. Plan a night when several families can get together to watch the program. Use the discussion questions in conjunction with the DVD.
I check all the websites and some of them are really helpful. Hope that these resources can help us to do something.
December 18th, 2009 by editor
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When I was a kid in elementary school, I had a lot of classmates and neighbors. One of those playmates lived beside our house and his family education was really horrible in the community. He has an elder sister, who was one year older than me. We always played together and from my eyes, they were good playmates.
As soon as I heard their crying, I know their father’s tyranny started. It was a tantalizing and hard time for me. I could not help. There always came a great impulse from the bottom of my heart that if I were not a kid, if I had power, I would had broken into his house, beat that tyrant and saved my friends out of the cage. However, it was just my imagination and things went as it was with my tooth bit soundly.
What was going on there in my neighbor’s? The father pricked his two children with self made needles as his special family punishment if the children did something made him angry. The feeble mother was too weak to stop this. I saw the needles by myself and the amount was two, pricked on the wall if not on the body of my friends. The above story was true and was always an example for other parents to spook their children in the community.
I think most of us of my age have experienced being beat by our parents. I remembered to be beat severely in a cold winter day with snowflakes covered the ground. The reason was I went out to play on the ice surface of the huge lake with pals secretly. The surface was not as safe as I thought and I went home with wet shoes and pants. My brother and my cousins all had parents’ punches when they were treasonous teenagers. And now, they all grow up and are my mom’s and my aunt’s comfort and good sons. We hear thousands of times that they beat us for us good.
To beat or not, in the modern society, education expert’s theory tell us the way to teach our children in a kind method. Yeah, I agree with that .If you can do it with a peaceful way, it is the best of all. But sometimes we may lost our temper and beat our children impulsively, then a kind of thinking is needed afterwards and repair the relationship between you and children as soon as possible.
December 17th, 2009 by editor
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When I was six and my younger brother was three, my mum started to go to work. Not like most women nowadays, my mum went to work just for obtain more income to make the whole family’s life better. Women now have more requirements on jobs and need the career and personal development to fulfil dreams. As a result, I took the responsibility of taking care of my brother. As for rewards, mum bought us sweet round candy, which was packed in a small plastic bag that time. This was her words to us and she never let us down. So it was the happiest time when we heard the footstep of mom’s coming home. The candy was thirty cents that time, but we take it seriously then. Mum always keep her promise to her kids and she was also a good example to her children to learn the importance of keeping words to others. She never promised toys or gadget easily. However, if she answered with ok, she always tried to keep her words to us and didn’t care the cost she would pay for.
Mom’s this kind of character affect both my brother and I in the later days of daily life. Keeping words help us to establish the solid and reliable relationship between friends and the most important thing is the respect from people around us. Friends rely on us and believe in us.
If you give your children words about something, try to keep it or don’t response so easily. Teach your children to keep promise and give the explanation of the reason when they cannot do it. Like I said, parents are always the example of their children.
December 16th, 2009 by editor
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The Copenhagen summit draws the whole world attention. The significance and meaning is described as the last chance to save our earth. We don’t know what the result of it will be at the moment. It seems the so called summit is just the stuff that countries participate in. However, we should know how to teach our children to value and protect the environment we have. Parents are always the first example to children.
Most of us can recall several things we did like damaging the bushes and young trees, slingshot ting the birds just for fun when we were children. These happy times past forever, because children today prefer high tech toys to those hand made stuff in the old times. Memories of childhood great environment gradually disappear. Help our children to be aware of protecting the nature and environment at young ages is the responsibility of education for the next generation. Here are several tips that can help.
- Let you child know the importance of saving natural recourses. Save water, electricity, food and value the work other people offer. Parents should set yourself an example to your children in daily life.
- Encourage and support your children to participate in school activity or community job that help environment and greening.
- Learn how to recycle the life waste and make the full use of unused things. Ask your children to do it with you. It is innovative.
- Get rid of your waste properly.
- Try to walk or take the bus to go outside with your children when you are free in the vacation.
The above suggestion is limited and I believe that many more good ideas stem from our understanding of life and our wisdom can not only make life better but also keep it better.
December 14th, 2009 by editor
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Yesterday was Sunday. I went shopping to buy a gift to the daughter of my colleague. It will be her four years old birthday the day after tomorrow. I looked around and finally chose a beautiful house shaped saving box with two cute pigs lying beside the door. I gave it to my colleague in the afternoon and in the evening I got the telephone her child called with happiness and thanks. How beautiful the whole thing was!
This morning, I was told by my colleague that the saving box was broken last night just two minutes after the call. What the hell was going on there? Her daughter broke the new saving box with the old one when trying to remove the coins to the new one and one of the black corners was crashed off. She was very nervous and face was suddenly flushed because the new box gone bad just several minutes after she got it. What to do with it? What to say next? Beat your children? Scold your child? What if it was not a saving box, what if it was something you treasure and valuable? When I was a child, my mother published me at that time.
The moment my colleague started to outbreak, her daughter whispered:” Mom, you know, I broken the corner so that the separated part can be the smoke from the chimney. I won’t touch the house saving box any more.” What a forced interpretation!
Telling this story, I want every parent to stop a while to give a chance for your children’s explanation before your outbreak erupt and punishment follows. We are all grown ups and all can feel the sadness and self-blame when we do the wrong things. Our child can feel it too. Give your child a period time and let he recognize the lesson learned from the things he mess up. It is good for you both.
December 11th, 2009 by editor
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I dislike smoking very much. I cannot breathe in the house full of smoke. My father smoke a lot now and it is really hard for him to get rid of it after more than a decade smoking habit. My brother started to smoke at high school and seems to get heavier in the university. They are just addicted to it. Most of the workers here in the factory are not older than 20 years old. Of course, my working place is not a black workshop, hiring minors to save the cost. Most of the young teenagers here have not graduated from technical college yet. Normally they start intern in the factory at the start of the third semester. Most of them are 18, 19 years old. However, three second of the pupils smoke and a great part of them has two to three years’ smoking age.
Maybe we think it is nothing new to see a young teenager smoking at the street any longer. We are used to it. More and more teenagers become the victims of nicotine and cancer causing toxins at a young age. The report of increased death of lung cancer cannot make a difference for them as well.
As the no smokers, we cannot avoid the effect of second hand smoke in the public but we can make the house much healthier, for the safety of our kids and ourselves as well.
Today I read news from the newspaper that in 2008, the figure of people not be harmed by smoke and second hand smoke is only 5.4% globally. Before you find any signal of your kids smoking, tell them and let them know deeply about the harm of smoking. Help you kids set up the right view of smoking at a young age. Smoking is not just cool as it seems on the face. On the other hand, make sure that your house should never be a place that allows smoking for everyone.
December 10th, 2009 by editor
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When I was a teenager, I was mad about those sweet and sour soft drinks and sweet ice cream. And my brother always has sweet drinks instead of plain water all day long. These colorful drinks and milky aroma pull your nerve tightly and it is really hard to deny it, especially for kids and teenagers. Kids don’t like plain water, which is the most useful ingredient of our body and most easily absorbed substance by our body. The importance of water may be not thoroughly realized by us. A lot of illness is resulted from inadequate water we have. Somebody will say that he feel nothing uncomfortable of his body even though a lot of soft drinks poured into the stomach. How to explain it?
From my point of view, water, especially plain water, is the most important medium for the chemical reaction in the cell. It enhances the good circulation of blood, transportation of waste and urination. However, most of the soft drinks in the market today are added by industry additives. Our kids’ attention is all drew on those delicious and good looking drinks with beautiful wrappers around and cool movie star printed on the bottle. The next step is trying to let your kids have more plain water. From now on, tell kids as much as you can that if you want to be pretty, drink water. If you want to be healthy, drink water. If you want to be slim, still drink water. Parents should be kids’ example at the same time.
December 9th, 2009 by editor
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Several weeks ago, my colleague and I went to the best international school in our city and paid for the annual tuition of the Korean managers’ kids, which is thirty times higher than normal local schools. When she was in the accounting office, I went out for a strolling and want to see what the hell the best bilingual education school is extinct from others.
A great part of the kids are from Japan and Korea. Maybe one or two kids on average in a class are from European or state countries. When I was looking around, I came across grade 1 class kids coming out for playing snow ball. The teacher was a lady, maybe 30 years old, standing beside them. Two minutes later, a black girl, called Coco, coming out from the building with a paper sheet in her hand and said” teacher, I finished the sheet”. “Coco, you are fast enough to finish the test sheet.” “12 minus 5 equals 10, 13 plus 1 equals 10, 18 minus 3 equals 10 and every outcome is 10” Then the lady asked Coco go back to classroom and recalculate it until getting the correct number. I could still remember the feeling on Coco’s face, how she wanted to join in the snowball games with others. She turned around several times when she went back into the building. The above scene may happen in a lot of families and I want to point out that I have no skin color discrimination in this story. I just met it. Wherever, even the best of the best school, math cases happen.
Math, maybe a headache for both parents and kids, is logical and boring. It doesn’t like illustrating and drawing. Sometimes it seems no fun at all. I planned to share some tips. However, every parent’s solution is different. It is important to find a special way for your own kids and let them like math. Don’t pressurize your kids using your way to learn math and try not to shout at them. It will only make things worse. Make math funny with the help of books and help from teacher. You will obtain what you expect from your kids under your patience and persistence. Another suggestion is that the earlier you set up the interest of math for your kids, the better he will behave in high school and later studying.
