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Discrimination on those teens

February 2nd, 2010

Several days no communication with all of you. The end of the year is drawing just very near. Every corner of the place seems filled with busy and anxious air. The situation of economy seems revert much better than anticipated and especially for the auto industry in China. My company is specialized in auto spare part called flex tube and the production can not meet the need of those auto companies. Therefore, more operators have to be recruited. I referred in one of my previous passage that most of these workers are just teens, who start to intern at the third semester of their college. Two teens out of ten finally pass the exam and interview. If their medical report is ok, they can start to work right away. However, yesterday I met a thing that gave that child the first punch on his career. He is a hepatitis B virus carrier and then was denied. Since I remembered things, my parent asked me to be away from those kids infected with HBV through mother to baby relations. At that time I had no idea what it was. Discrimination starts on these people since they were child and they are innocent. Feel sympathetic for them or lucky for ourselves? Even though this may has no side effect for my company’s sales, the outcome is without an exception. He was denied in the phone. He tried to accept the fact without exposing his sadness. Although we tried the best not to hurt him, we actually did, maybe the first hit for him. I knew several same cases. One of the teens was infected from his roommate during a depressed period. These children sometimes are vulnerable and always worry about the job they have now. It is difficult for them to find a job compared to those healthy ones. Discrimination is not only just limited on the jobs.

If we know some knowledge of the virus like AIDS or HBV, we should be easier when live around them. For those teens, we should place more cure rather than asking our child hurt them.

The relation of kids and step mother

January 28th, 2010

I will be a bridesmaid the day after tomorrow. The bride is my roommate on campus and she is going to be married a man seven years older than her. They are now running a small company making auto break rotors in a city which is adjacent to the one where I live now. When the first time I knew their relationship, my response was the same with other classmates’. We all didn’t think it would last long and smooth. The man had a two year old son with his ex-wife and that meant my friend was going to be a step mother, the fact which was so different from what we imagined at school. My friend hasn’t had a marriage before and only one love affair before this man. Now she is pregnant and the wedding ceremony is fixed on this Saturday.

Maybe it is so normal in the west countries and nothing surprised even in the world to see a 20 year old girl married a man who is 69 and has hundreds of children. However, we still have kind of worry about the relationship between the child and step mother who is going to have her own child. This kind of relationship is always the hidden blast of family conflict and collides if we don’t cope with it well and properly.

Each part of this relationship feels exhausted.

For me, sending my wishes for her wedding is the only way I can do.

Several things to know before picking your children’s school

January 26th, 2010

Well, when it was twenties years ago, there was not much difficulty for my parents to pick my school from the learning age. We lived in the uptown and there was only one school sponsored by local enterprise, three hundred meters far to my home. I had five years happy time there. I need no school bus and always the guy keeping the key of the classroom. When my home moved to the downtown, things changed. My parents tried their best to find me the best high school and hoped me to get the best education. I gradually understand their thought and nowadays getting their children the greatest education is the top priority as long as parents can offer.

Several tips are to be shared with parents to choose a school for children.

  1. Using handy online tool to find the school near you.
  2. Get the government agency report of schools you’re considering
  3. Get the list of top schools, from primary to secondary, pre-prep and independent
  4. Think about the tuition that you can stand and private school is not your first choice.

Orphans after the earthquake

January 25th, 2010

Earthquake, a word that people don’t want to refer to, shakes the world severely two times this year. Once was in China, and the other was happened in Haiti just a couple of days ago. Shocking pictures and devastating ruins, dead body remind people from time to time that once the earth get a bad temple, no creatures can escape no matter how wealthy or powerful he is. During the report of an earthquake, pictures of homeless children and orphans can always been found and not a time miss. These children are in the queue for the donated food with naked upside body and long snot hung down the noses. 

For the children survive in an earthquake, sometimes they have no one to be complained to. They experience the most unfortunate thing in their life at an early age, with losing the people they rely and love, the place where they live and the happy memories of childhood. No one you can complain to and maybe you have to thank the God that you are still alive.

Each time after an earthquake, the cases of children adoption are more than normal days. They are accepted by new families and start to enter to a new environment. Psychological problems are the first scar that has to be correctly coped with. Time and love maybe the best cure for the hurt the left after the earthquake.

How many dinners do you have with kids?

January 21st, 2010

More than ten years ago I had nearly every dinner with my family. If there was something worthy of recalling, that was the harmonious atmosphere during the dinner time. We chat with each other and a lot of funny topics and subjects were discussed. When I left my hometown and went to campus, I shared each dinner with my roommates and returned back home on vacation. Having dinner together is the happiest time in my family.

While nowadays, the fast pace of working and life make the parents busy at career ignore the importance of having a dinner with children. American educational expert Marshall.P.Duke told us that happy communication at the dinner table or even a talk before sleeping is good for family harmonious relationship and promoting children’s thinking.

Make some time on investing in your dinner with children. In a successful dinner case, the first point is the democracy atmosphere among the family. Children can express what he likes. Parents play an important role in leading a good family dinner.

Here are some tips for reference.

  1. Don’t get your children into the habit of eating and watching TV at the same time.
  2. For the picky eating problems, more encouragement and less pressing.
  3. Each member of the family has to join in the dinner chat.
  4. For parents, focus on listening.
  5. Say some words to show that you are listening to your kids.
  6. Sincerely speak out something about your kids’ true feelings on what they express. Like: it is really difficult to lose a friend. I am really sorry to hear the bad situation that your classmates have. Is there something that we can help him out?

Notice your child’s self-dignity

January 16th, 2010

We will not doubt that each child has self-dignity. Maybe he has it when 4 years old, maybe 2 years old or ever earlier. We should never think that this kind of thing coming later after going to kindergarten.

My daughter start kindergarten the early of this year and refuse to go to it from time to time. Sometimes, it is because her sickness and sometimes for bad weather and sometimes there was no reason at all. The tuition was paid monthly and therefore she could be absent of school for a month. Her situation brought some difficulty for the head teacher when there was an activity of the school kids for the festival or anniversary. In December, the kindergarten started to prepare for the New Year’s coming and the whole school had a party. Each class should prepare one program. My daughter’s class had a dancing program and the teacher didn’t consider my daughter’s participation because of her absence those days. Later on, my daughter insisted not to go to kindergarten for a whole week until her teacher asking for. I asked for the reason and her reply was she thought the teacher didn’t like her so that teacher didn’t give her the chance for the party. “I know how to do all of the moves, why the teacher doesn’t inform me, she must does not like me.”I realized that her self dignity was hurt. The next day I communicated with the teacher and told her the whole speech. I weaved a reason and proved to my daughter that her teacher still liked her as previously and the thing finally ended and past.

Each children start to own self dignity at a very young age. They need to be respected and concerned. Sometimes the parents hurt the tender heart without any notice. If you have done it unconsciously, modify it as early as possible.

Mediation course for teenagers

January 12th, 2010

Today I read news from The Times that the leading public school in Britain started a new course called mindfulness course for year 10 pupils, teaching pupils how to concentrate and combat anxiety while keeping silent for about 40 minutes. Silence is powerful. It showed teenagers the benefits of silence and helping them to identify and escape corrosive mindsets that could lead to mental health problems such as depression, eating disorders and addiction.

Mindfulness originated in Eastern meditation traditions such as Buddhism but is now an established secular discipline. A growing body of research supports wider use of the approach to address transient stress and deeper mental health problems, including recommendations from the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence that it be offered on the NHS to patients suffering from depression.

It seemed that up to now the effect of the course is positive and teenagers who had the course thought it was helpful to get sleep and good to cut down the nervous at school cricket matches.

Most of the readers advocate it. Why should we deny it if it is useful for our development? However, there is always negative voice when new things emerge into our life and somebody said that it was eyewash. Personally speaking, I think that this kind of new course would be uptake and become a new way to teach us when we are teenagers to help ourselves from those mental problems. After all, more and more tragedy results from the mindset problems in today’s life. When we say that mindset decides everything of a person, no body teaches a course in class how to tackle this problem.

Hope that mindfulness course could finally  benefit most of us.

Our memory of snowy day

January 11th, 2010

The snow this year should be a great threat for a lot of countries all over the world, including a great part of Europe and a lot of cities in China.

I have seen this scene two years ago in 2008 and if earlier in my childhood, it should be in nineteen nineties when I was a teenager. Everywhere was covered by more than ten centimeters snow and everywhere was frozen. It seemed that at that time we were not at all afraid of the coldness of the snow and you know the heating method was old and original compared to the various equipment sold in the supermarket today. My pals and I went to the frozen lake and all of us walked on the ice surface so excited. Unfortunately, some of us including me wet shoes and pants and got a hard beat when went back home. It was painful then but when I recalled those memories now, it was colorful in my childhood and it was worthy of the beating although it was very painful. All of the children were fond of snow ball fight. We would press someone into the snow and hit him with snowball severely.

This year a lot of schools got shut because of the heavy snow weather and a lot of big cities in my counties limit the use of electricity for factories’ production because of the shortage of coal.  

It was a gold period for those kids, playing and enjoying one scene of the nature. I suggest that let your children go out to play and to create some good memories of their own childhood which could be enjoyed a decade or two later in future.

The pictures of memory will never be obtained by money.

Make adequate measures to ensure your children’s warmth and if you are also free, go out with your kids to have a furious snow ball fight.

Make your baby concentrate

January 7th, 2010

This topic seems a little far from our daily life. However, each parent should be aware of educating your baby from an early age. If you have the awareness of antenatal training before delivery, I believe you should pour more energy to your kids after it. Several tips are to share with all of you. Some of them are from my own practice and some are from the books of toddler’s education.

  1. Create a pure and tidy environment. In my previous passages I referred that stimulation works during the development of baby’s nerve system. It is right here too. A noisy and disordered environment will lead to inattention. When my daughter was two years old, she had already got a lot of toys and dolls. I gave her one or two toys each time and the rest pile was removed to the other room. I can felt her concentration on them.
  2. regular bed time

Set up regular bed time for your kids. Let your children know when to play and when to rest. Plan a regular period to read and for outside sport.

  1. Balanced nutrition

This point is essential in every stage of children development. If the family can offer good diet condition, I think no parents would say no.

  1. Adequate sleep

Enough sleep, good mood, stable emotion and good concentration 

  1. Respect your child pace

Each child has different pace at development. Don’t push your child and make him do what you think he should achieve. Why not to slow down your speed and coordinate with him? More observation and be more patient. If you find obviously his interest, let him play longer time and it is a good time to let your child focus.

Teenagers’ net addiction

January 3rd, 2010

This is another tragedy happened among the teenagers who are addicted to web. The story was happened two weeks ago in the city where I live now. The boy, 17, addicted to website and cared nothing except for surfing on line, playing video games and chatting, killed his father with a steel hammer after the poor father was furious about his son’s behavior and cut off the electric power of the house during his playing net games. The boy’s mother heard the noise and went upstairs to help. However, she was attacked by her son with the hammer, her head cut down with a knife and eyes dug out. For me, it was difficult to figure out how he could do it to his biological parents.

During my time as a teenager and after I got to campus, I met a part of those cases. My cousin, 4 years old than me, was indulged in playing video games without going to school when he was in high school. You can find him only either in web café or in bed of his room. My mom and his parents all had searched him all over the cafes of the town. Each time after caught back, what he faced with was a hard hit from his parents and a period of education besides his ears. However, anther cycle of the scene went on several days later. At that time, maybe 10 years ago, my aunt’s family hated those bosses of the web café severely. They thought that it was those cafes brought the damages to a lot of families like them.

From most of the teenagers’ addiction cases, the parents care less about the children’s private life. They communicate so less and parents cannot really touch the heart of their kids. They don’t really know what the hell the teenagers think. Most of the time, parents have the busiest period in their life when their family needs more home expenditure. They bury their head in their career and leave less and less time about how to getting through their children. I think maybe that leads to the impact coming from the internet for the relationship between parents and teenagers. For those bad parents- children relationship family, it is time to make some time to fix it up. Internet is not our enemy. It is a good tool if we use it good and maybe a terminator if we don’t learn a lesson from ourselves.