February 2nd, 2010 by editor
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Several days no communication with all of you. The end of the year is drawing just very near. Every corner of the place seems filled with busy and anxious air. The situation of economy seems revert much better than anticipated and especially for the auto industry in China. My company is specialized in auto spare part called flex tube and the production can not meet the need of those auto companies. Therefore, more operators have to be recruited. I referred in one of my previous passage that most of these workers are just teens, who start to intern at the third semester of their college. Two teens out of ten finally pass the exam and interview. If their medical report is ok, they can start to work right away. However, yesterday I met a thing that gave that child the first punch on his career. He is a hepatitis B virus carrier and then was denied. Since I remembered things, my parent asked me to be away from those kids infected with HBV through mother to baby relations. At that time I had no idea what it was. Discrimination starts on these people since they were child and they are innocent. Feel sympathetic for them or lucky for ourselves? Even though this may has no side effect for my company’s sales, the outcome is without an exception. He was denied in the phone. He tried to accept the fact without exposing his sadness. Although we tried the best not to hurt him, we actually did, maybe the first hit for him. I knew several same cases. One of the teens was infected from his roommate during a depressed period. These children sometimes are vulnerable and always worry about the job they have now. It is difficult for them to find a job compared to those healthy ones. Discrimination is not only just limited on the jobs.
If we know some knowledge of the virus like AIDS or HBV, we should be easier when live around them. For those teens, we should place more cure rather than asking our child hurt them.
January 28th, 2010 by editor
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I will be a bridesmaid the day after tomorrow. The bride is my roommate on campus and she is going to be married a man seven years older than her. They are now running a small company making auto break rotors in a city which is adjacent to the one where I live now. When the first time I knew their relationship, my response was the same with other classmates’. We all didn’t think it would last long and smooth. The man had a two year old son with his ex-wife and that meant my friend was going to be a step mother, the fact which was so different from what we imagined at school. My friend hasn’t had a marriage before and only one love affair before this man. Now she is pregnant and the wedding ceremony is fixed on this Saturday.
Maybe it is so normal in the west countries and nothing surprised even in the world to see a 20 year old girl married a man who is 69 and has hundreds of children. However, we still have kind of worry about the relationship between the child and step mother who is going to have her own child. This kind of relationship is always the hidden blast of family conflict and collides if we don’t cope with it well and properly.
Each part of this relationship feels exhausted.
For me, sending my wishes for her wedding is the only way I can do.
January 26th, 2010 by editor
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Well, when it was twenties years ago, there was not much difficulty for my parents to pick my school from the learning age. We lived in the uptown and there was only one school sponsored by local enterprise, three hundred meters far to my home. I had five years happy time there. I need no school bus and always the guy keeping the key of the classroom. When my home moved to the downtown, things changed. My parents tried their best to find me the best high school and hoped me to get the best education. I gradually understand their thought and nowadays getting their children the greatest education is the top priority as long as parents can offer.
Several tips are to be shared with parents to choose a school for children.
- Using handy online tool to find the school near you.
- Get the government agency report of schools you’re considering
- Get the list of top schools, from primary to secondary, pre-prep and independent
- Think about the tuition that you can stand and private school is not your first choice.
January 25th, 2010 by editor
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Earthquake, a word that people don’t want to refer to, shakes the world severely two times this year. Once was in China, and the other was happened in Haiti just a couple of days ago. Shocking pictures and devastating ruins, dead body remind people from time to time that once the earth get a bad temple, no creatures can escape no matter how wealthy or powerful he is. During the report of an earthquake, pictures of homeless children and orphans can always been found and not a time miss. These children are in the queue for the donated food with naked upside body and long snot hung down the noses.
For the children survive in an earthquake, sometimes they have no one to be complained to. They experience the most unfortunate thing in their life at an early age, with losing the people they rely and love, the place where they live and the happy memories of childhood. No one you can complain to and maybe you have to thank the God that you are still alive.
Each time after an earthquake, the cases of children adoption are more than normal days. They are accepted by new families and start to enter to a new environment. Psychological problems are the first scar that has to be correctly coped with. Time and love maybe the best cure for the hurt the left after the earthquake.
January 21st, 2010 by editor
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More than ten years ago I had nearly every dinner with my family. If there was something worthy of recalling, that was the harmonious atmosphere during the dinner time. We chat with each other and a lot of funny topics and subjects were discussed. When I left my hometown and went to campus, I shared each dinner with my roommates and returned back home on vacation. Having dinner together is the happiest time in my family.
While nowadays, the fast pace of working and life make the parents busy at career ignore the importance of having a dinner with children. American educational expert Marshall.P.Duke told us that happy communication at the dinner table or even a talk before sleeping is good for family harmonious relationship and promoting children’s thinking.
Make some time on investing in your dinner with children. In a successful dinner case, the first point is the democracy atmosphere among the family. Children can express what he likes. Parents play an important role in leading a good family dinner.
Here are some tips for reference.
- Don’t get your children into the habit of eating and watching TV at the same time.
- For the picky eating problems, more encouragement and less pressing.
- Each member of the family has to join in the dinner chat.
- For parents, focus on listening.
- Say some words to show that you are listening to your kids.
- Sincerely speak out something about your kids’ true feelings on what they express. Like: it is really difficult to lose a friend. I am really sorry to hear the bad situation that your classmates have. Is there something that we can help him out?
January 20th, 2010 by editor
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When I was a kid, I liked to be beautiful and always wore my mom’s cosmetic secretly. But nowadays, I have no much passion and interest in those fancy cosmetics except for some necessary facial everyday. The reason, I don’t know. When I was using those low priced makeup from the small store, I cared nothing about whether those powder or color hurt my skin or lip. I was crazy about the splendid color world when I was a teenager. I believe that most of parents today still use the adult cosmetic on their children’s face or body, especially the color make up. The fact is right now the specially made cosmetic for children has not yet been developed well.
When most of the sales seriously tell us that their products are totally natural and extracted from the fruit and vegetables, always keep in mind that these are just ads for promotion. When the whole earth environment is polluted, do you still expect that there are so called things totally natural? The point is we have to choose that good quality product comparatively and less stimulation for ourselves and our children.
For the color make up, my suggestion is if needed, once or twice is not a big deal.
January 19th, 2010 by editor
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Today I read news about children stroke, which was happened on a 7 year-old healthy children. It just happened without any signs and so unexpected. Most of stroke cases we have heard were on adults, most of which are above forties or fifties. Slurred speech, droopy eyes, stiffness, inability to walk or even on his own, these symptoms can be described when an adult is taken to an emergency room because of stroke. Can you have any ideas when this is happened to 7 year old children? At least, I have never met this scene around of me. Because of children strokes happening much less than to adult, so the data was extremely limited. I think that researches on children stroke have a long way to go. The rate of children strokes has been growing in recent years, partly as a result of increased awareness and better reporting. It is estimated from the experts at children’s hospital of Philadelphia that the rate in children under 18 is as high as 12 per 100,000 or about 9000 cases a year. In newborns, the data is 25 per 100,000- a rate approaching that of elderly adults.
What I have read make me remind of my three times’ seizure when I was between 9-12 years old. I was always sick in my childhood. Three times of convulsion made my parents really mad at that time. I had no awareness about my sickness; eyes rolled up and just lay on the bed with my mom’s calling me. Maybe it was not much related to stroke and less dangerous than it. But you cannot imagine the anxiety and seriousness at that time when it happened in the dark night and the clinic was far away.
Today’s medical condition is much more advanced than 20 years ago. If some cases unexpected happened on our kids, try to send children to the hospital as fast as possible. Maybe it is the only helpful way to lessen the damage to our children.
January 16th, 2010 by editor
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We will not doubt that each child has self-dignity. Maybe he has it when 4 years old, maybe 2 years old or ever earlier. We should never think that this kind of thing coming later after going to kindergarten.
My daughter start kindergarten the early of this year and refuse to go to it from time to time. Sometimes, it is because her sickness and sometimes for bad weather and sometimes there was no reason at all. The tuition was paid monthly and therefore she could be absent of school for a month. Her situation brought some difficulty for the head teacher when there was an activity of the school kids for the festival or anniversary. In December, the kindergarten started to prepare for the New Year’s coming and the whole school had a party. Each class should prepare one program. My daughter’s class had a dancing program and the teacher didn’t consider my daughter’s participation because of her absence those days. Later on, my daughter insisted not to go to kindergarten for a whole week until her teacher asking for. I asked for the reason and her reply was she thought the teacher didn’t like her so that teacher didn’t give her the chance for the party. “I know how to do all of the moves, why the teacher doesn’t inform me, she must does not like me.”I realized that her self dignity was hurt. The next day I communicated with the teacher and told her the whole speech. I weaved a reason and proved to my daughter that her teacher still liked her as previously and the thing finally ended and past.
Each children start to own self dignity at a very young age. They need to be respected and concerned. Sometimes the parents hurt the tender heart without any notice. If you have done it unconsciously, modify it as early as possible.
January 15th, 2010 by editor
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You are what you eat. It is always right. Sometimes body signals can tell us what we are short of in our body. For example, our fingernail has this function. When I was a teenager, I was emerged into playing with my pals and care nothing about my health. As long as I didn’t get sick, I had no awareness of caring my body. However, I knew one thing, which fingernail was sometimes different from each other. More whiter, white fleck in one period and some was flat and easy fractured. The fact is that fingernail can tell us something about our children’s healthy situation.
Nails can reflect some nutritional deficiencies, such as low levels of iron, biotin and protein.
Most nail problems aren’t associated with nutrition, but if children have an iron deficiency, their nails may disclose it. Pale, whitish nail beds are a common symptom of animia. With more severe deficiencies, the fingernail may change shape — a condition called koilonychia where the nails are thin and concave with raised vertical ridges.
January 12th, 2010 by editor
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Today I read news from The Times that the leading public school in Britain started a new course called mindfulness course for year 10 pupils, teaching pupils how to concentrate and combat anxiety while keeping silent for about 40 minutes. Silence is powerful. It showed teenagers the benefits of silence and helping them to identify and escape corrosive mindsets that could lead to mental health problems such as depression, eating disorders and addiction.
Mindfulness originated in Eastern meditation traditions such as Buddhism but is now an established secular discipline. A growing body of research supports wider use of the approach to address transient stress and deeper mental health problems, including recommendations from the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence that it be offered on the NHS to patients suffering from depression.
It seemed that up to now the effect of the course is positive and teenagers who had the course thought it was helpful to get sleep and good to cut down the nervous at school cricket matches.
Most of the readers advocate it. Why should we deny it if it is useful for our development? However, there is always negative voice when new things emerge into our life and somebody said that it was eyewash. Personally speaking, I think that this kind of new course would be uptake and become a new way to teach us when we are teenagers to help ourselves from those mental problems. After all, more and more tragedy results from the mindset problems in today’s life. When we say that mindset decides everything of a person, no body teaches a course in class how to tackle this problem.
Hope that mindfulness course could finally benefit most of us.
